Self Esteem and Body Image
After twenty years of research and experience as an empowerment coach and as an aesthetician, I have spent hours working with women who struggle with their self-esteem. Much of this struggle relates to body image and the desire for larger breasts. Since breast size can be a significant factor in how a woman feels about herself, I began assisting my clients with information, treatments and procedures that could enhance their bust-line naturally.
I got an email from a woman who was a breast cancer survivor and wanted to know which method of natural breast enlargement would be safest for her. I respected her desire for larger breasts, but couldn’t help wondering if she shouldn’t be focusing on something else, like her unique talents and abilities. Her question lead me on a journey from how to enhance the breasts to why is it so important to women today. Where did this breast obsession come from?
One theory is the lack of using breasts for their primary function, breast feeding babies. The number of women breast feeding has dramatically declined. Many look at a nursing mother with disapproval or disgust, even though she is doing what nature intended and equipped her to do. That leads to the idea that the primary function of the breasts is connected to sexuality.
Another theory is the introduction of the Barbie doll in 1959.. Little girls playing with the doll naturally grew up thinking that the perfect figure was that of a Barbie doll.
Some blame the media and the over exposure of breasts in a sexual way. Our society is being bombarded in movies, television, Fashion magazines and advertisements with the idea that looks are everything. They send the message that if your looks are good enough, your life will be glamorous and you will be happy and popular. Wherever it comes from, we have an epidemic of women who are not happy with their body , and it is affecting their lives. Women who are more focused on their body’s form than it’s function.
The rise in eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia, and the high incident of cosmetic surgery in young women demonstrates a woman’s feelings of not being enough and the need to be accepted by society.
So how do we go about fixing the problem? Margaret Mead made clear the power of a small group to make changes in society when she said it has always been the small group of thoughtful, committed citizens that has changed the world. A few strong, committed women can make a difference, and bring awareness of our need to change and create a turnaround in how we as individuals and as a culture perceives the value of a woman. We’ve been struggling with this for decades.
Support programs that honour and encourage women in intellectual endeavours, accomplishment in sports, community service and things like that. If non exist in your area create one.
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind. Write or call those businesses who promote the idea that the most acceptable women are the most physically beautiful, unnaturally thin women and express your disapproval or even tell them you will not buy their products or services and will encourage others to boycott the products and services.
Support , write and call those business that do a great job of promoting the true essence of women and help them to accept who they are, such as the The Dove Campaign For Real Beauty. Hopefully other businesses will catch on and follow their example.
Find and appreciate your inner beauty and let it radiate on the outside. Learn to love who you, where you are, and what you are . Be in the moment and live a life of gratitude for what you have. Focusing on others will diminish the focus one personal problems. And cultivate confidence by accepting your situation and moving through fear and self doubt.
Little by little , working together we can make great strides in resolving the body image issue.