- Accepting Yourself (Perfect Imperfections)
- Have you ever caught yourself sitting around thinking that if you were "just" a bit different when it comes to this or that, you would be so much more desirable, wealthy, or good looking? Such conversations can seem so believable while actually being so destructive. What would your life be like if you appreciated your imperfections as the signature of your soul?
- Whether you consider yourself to be "perfect" or not, is an important topic for most anyone that would like to live a happy life.
For instance, you lose quite a lot of weight and now you feel that the skin on your face seems to be hanging in a strange way. Or you finally get enough money to buy a new wardrobe, only to find that the fashion for the upcoming season is radically different than what you just bought at a discount. I have a young friend who got his hair cut short for a job interview as an in-store male model, only to find his potential boss sitting there with his hair in a pony tail.
Is it really that life is unfair, or is the problem simply that we are often chasing an image of ourselves that is somehow not all that real or realistic?! Do you try to make it appear like you have no flaws? Or do you relish how such flaws add to your uniqueness? I find in my own life, it is so important to go beyond the oppositional thinking of right or wrong, good or bad, and in the process, accept, and fall in love with, who I really am.
For example: I truly believe that I have a fair share of people friendly qualities, and yet I know that I still also can be harsh at times. I know that I can be entertaining and intriguing, and that does not stop me from also being boring at times. I am a little bit of everything, and not all of any one thing. I try to understand myself as both/and, rather than either/or. I try to understand myself from an aesthetic that comes from my own heart, and not from the advertisements I see on TV.
The more I stop trying to be perfect, the more I discover just how perfect I already am. Does this sound a bit egotistical? I am talking about the perfect imperfections that a potter sees in her pots. She strives to maintain the soul of what she is making, by insuring that her pots don't become so perfect that they appear machine made.
I remember watching not too long ago, an interview with Robert Redford. The interviewer wondered out loud, since Redford was getting older, wouldn't he want to have some cosmetic surgery. Redford looked a bit surprised by the question. He looked intently at the interviewer, and then said, "Cosmetic surgery? Oh my god no! I wouldn't want to erase my soul from my face. I would rather like to think there is something about me that is somehow unique. I don't want to look like who I used to be. I want to look like who I am. "
How about you? Any chance that you are sometimes trying to cover up your perfection, in an attempt to appear perfect?
There is nothing more special than simply being yourself.
And realizing that any subtraction OR addition, would simply take away from who you really are.
Your soul has a signature.
Don't erase it and replace it with someone else's calligraphy.
Also see: Imperfection is Beautiful