The new year is here. We believe that the message conveyed in our first blog post is very important; setting the tone for how we mean to move forward during 2010.
This being the case, we couldn't think of a better first message than how to feel good about yourself in 2010. We hope it will help build your self esteem and self confidence.
Don't wait for your confidence to reach a mythical level of elevation before taking the first step towards obtaining your dreams. Don't let a desired opportunity pass you by. View perceived obstacles as challenges. Remember you will get some things right and others wrong. Whatever the outcome, the exercise will be a valuable learning experience, it will also increase your confidence and move you closer to achieving your goals.
There will be times when you will feel overwhelmed, unchallenged, a failure, successful, happy, disappointed or a multitude of other emotions. Accept how you feel and if negative, acknowledge the truth about your emotions and work on coping strategies to help you to keep moving forward towards your desired outcome.
Try not to take everything personally. e.g. If a third party does not give you the response you were hoping for, take an objective view. Perhaps there are contributing factors that you are not aware of or take time to recognize that everything is not always going to go your way.
There will be times when things go wrong despite your best endeavours and intensions. Rather then beating yourself up, choose to adopt a more forgiving and proactive approach. Review the situation to determine if the problem can be corrected and how. If it can't be fixed, apologise (if appropriate), forgive yourself and move on.
Replace the negative voices going around and around in your head with positive self talk. Stand in front of the mirror and repeat positive truths about yourself. If it helps write them on note pads and place them on regularly frequented locations around your house. Do this even if you have concluded that there is an element of truth in the negative self talk or negative words voiced by others. View identified problem areas as aspects of yourself that you can work on improving; refrain from attaching an all encompassing negative label to yourself.
Remember that you are not able to get into the head, emotions and heart of others in order to determine the reason behind their words and actions. Therefore, it is prudent to remember that there are countless reasons behind why people act the way the do. Do not determine a reason by imposing your own negative beliefs and fears on their actions. Instead look for and adopt a positive explanation.
We hope the above will help you accept and feel good about yourself in 2010 and beyond.